Category: Happiness

How to SPARKLE!


You can totally SPARKLE everyday! You know those days. You get up and its a complete struggle. You feel flat, tired, uninspired, and lacking energy. The world is crap and everything bad that could happen to you, does.

We all have them. The bad days. But what if everyday is like that? How do you move out of this kind of spiral of depression and self hate? The answer is….well not that simple, its a process, and it takes time. But you can absolutely change your mindset. I doubt myself every single day. I doubt whether or not anyone reads anything I write. I doubt my knowledge. And of course I have self-confidence issues. But I try not to let it get in the way of my mood. Because you know what? A bad day doesn’t mean a bad life. 

My trick is to get my brain thinking differently. Its been a long process, but for me a few deep breaths and positive affirmations can turn my negative thoughts into a great situation.

So I want you to try this: Focus on whatever negative thought you are having right now. Now imagine a box. What I want you to do is imagine that the negative thought is a rock. Put the rock into the box. Now put the box on a shelf. Then close the door. Your mind is now open and ready for the flow of positive thoughts. 

When I went searching, I found a tonne of articles on “how to turn your bad day around”. You could try all of these things. But for someone who is depressed, and has been in the cycle of negative thought for a long time, simply ‘having a shower’ isn’t going to cut it. I could write a list of all the things that you could try to get positive, but honestly, training your brain isn’t that easy.

What I would LOVE you to do instead is write your own list. Write down all the things that make you happy. Or even just slightly happy. Or the things which amuse you. Or the things that make you laugh. Then, I want you to DO ONE HAPPY THING EVERYDAY! It seems silly, and too simple, but by slowly getting your brain used to being happy, you can teach it to be in that state all the time.

You could use Instagram to do the #100happydays challenge, where you take a pic of something that makes you happy everyday. It seems simple, but by actively thinking of something that creates happiness, you are changing your state of mind.

Image from: http://evelynmoliveira.blogspot.com.au/2011/01/believe-in-love.html

Better yet, make yourself a Happy toolkit. This is a set of stuff that will help you to change your state of mind.

  • Go back to your list. Get pictures of the things that make you happy, and start compiling a happy book. Write why each of these things makes you happy.
  • Make a collage of pretty things, happy thing, cute things and other stuff you like. Even if it doesn’t specifically make you happy, the simple act of being creative will get you back to your glue-loving 5 year old self. 
  • Get some crystals. Use them to focus on positive affirmations.
  • Make some affirmation cards. Use these while taking deep breaths to switch how you are feeling. 
  • Your favourite yoga poses: write them down, print out pictures, then when you are feeling down, do the downward dog!
  •  A playlist of your favourite songs, or the songs that make you happy. Listen to it, sing to it, dance around the room to it. 
  • Trinkets: these can be literally any small object that brings you hapiness or happy memories. I have a box full of these and whenever i’m feeling blue, I pull them out and start reliving awesome times. 
  •  Your favourite recipe. In times of sadness and un-sparklyness get into the kitchen and whip up something yummy. For me it’s these Cherry Ripe Truffles
  • Tissues and chocolate. Sometimes, you can’t change your mindset. Sometimes you need to cry. This is ok, you don’t need to hold it in. Let it all out. Then, when you are done, eat some chocolate.

Whatever you need to do to get your sparkle back-do that. It takes time, but you can totally sparkle EVERY SINGLE DAY!

In saying all of this, I did find this great article by Tiny Buddha: http://tinybuddha.com/blog/10-ways-to-let-go-and-overcome-a-bad-mood/

Take a day just for you (I give you total permission!)

Today, take a day that is dedicated to you. The other day I was feeling run down, exhausted and lacking that spark I normally have. I was so busy. And in those times of absolute business and stress, its the perfect time to shut off the technology, take a wellness day from work, and bunker down with a good book, tea, candles, yoga, and simply allowing yourself to be. 
Give yourself that permission to look after yourself. Appreciate that you are wonderfully human, and its ok to take a day away from work, family, uni, friends, kids and be alone with your soul. It s magical thing to empower yourself with that kind of love. To be able to put yourself first for once, and not have to make excuses. All you have to say, is that you simply need a day for you. 

Step one: Give yourself permission
Decide that today will be for you. Not running errands, not for catching up on washing, or study. Not for replying to emails, or doing shopping. Today is simply for you to enjoy your own company, and allowing yourself to relax and rejuvenate from the stress of everyday life. 
 

Step two: Find the time.
If this involves calling in a favour, finding a babysitter, getting a health day from work, whatever you need to do, make it a priority and stick to it. Even a half day, or a few hours. The times that are the most stressful, is when we need to support ourselves most. 
 

Step three: Choose your favourite 3 activities
You have the time to do what makes you happiest. Most of the time, we aren’t able to do these things everyday, we make excuses, but these pieces of our lives are part of who we are. Grab that book, bake some cookies, take a bath, get a facial, take a long walk, nap. Whatever they are, make a list, and get them all done! You deserve it lovely <3
 

Step four: Relax!
You have got the time, you are doing awesome, fun, happy thing, now just enjoy yourself and relax! There is no point in stressing about things that don’t matter right now. Be present with yourself, and enjoy the moment. 
Lovelies, here is a list of things that you might want to include as part of your “me day”, you don’t need to pack everything in, you don’t even need to do anything, but remember to do things that you love, and that will fill your soul with happiness!

 

Affirmation of the day: I no longer worry about the opinion of others
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Stuff I Heart (Previously Five friday favourites)

Hello lovelies!

Happy Friday! I have decided to rename five Friday favourites to stuff I heart. Here is my roundup of stuff I heart from the interwebs 🙂

1. This video on what the world eats for breakfast. Its very enlightening to see just how unbalanced breakfast is worldwide. Most of the countries included had some form of refined carbohydrate for breakfast, and not many nutritious fruit and vegetables. Most countries also had processed meat products as well. The Indian, Brazilian, Egyptian and Swedish meals were the better ones, but still didn’t contain many fruit and vegetables.

2. This quote: I think its important to remember not to judge ourselves an assign crude labels to what we think we are.

3. Smoothie bowls. They are great, like sweet breakfast soup. And you can top them with all sorts of yummy goodies! Iv’e done mine with frozen blueberries, banana and greek yoghurt, topped with granola!

Image from: http://blissfulbasil.com/2014/01/17/antioxidant-smoothie-bowl/
Here are some great smoothie bowl recipe inspirations:
4. The 100 Happy Days challenge! I decided to embark on this challenge today, after learning all about the United Nation’s International day of Happiness Yesterday. So continuing with that theme, I will be posting a pic everyday on my Instagram page, of something that makes me happy. Today, I chose my gorgeous puppy dog Jaffa. His everlasting excitement to see me brightens everyday <3

Have you found anything exciting, interesting or inspiring on the interwebs lately. I would LOVE to hear what you guys have found!