I’m a big advocate for having a healthy body image, and self confidence, not just in women, but men as well. There are a multitude of reasons why at this point in time, the majority of us aren’t happy with our bodies, its cultural, religious, social, health, and has been hyped up by the media. I know myself, that I have never had body confidence, even now, knowing what I know, i’m still not comfortable in my own skin. And that is exactly why I am starting this new segment called body love. I’ts all about little ways we can all get a bit happier about the physical manifestation of ourselves. It’s also about sharing our stories, because by sharing how we feel and what we look like, we can all help and support each other to become better versions of ourselves.
About 6 months ago, I was really down in the dumps about my body as iv’e gained a bit of weight over the past few years, and as a (almost) nutritionist I felt like I was pretty worthless. But the thing is, I eat healthy, I exercise regularly, my heart and blood pressure is healthy, I’m never sick, I don’t take any drugs, and I feel sexy! So what on earth is the problem? The media tells me that I need a “flat stomach” and bikini body to fit it and to be seen as “beautiful” and “picture worthy”, but I am one of the healthiest people I know (not to float my own boat), so why is looking a certain way getting me down? My issue is my stomach, I get bloated when stressed, after eating gluten, when i’m PMSing, and for no other reason. It happens all the time, and I know that it’s simply a matter of improving my gut health and taking probiotics and watching what I eat. And I know many of you will have the same problem (see my post on Bloating). But I am on the journey to loving my body and really appreciating what it can do. I can climb mountains (and have), I can lift heavy things, make babies, have conversations, repair my cells, breathe, learn, create beautiful artwork and be inspired.
I think the video below really sums up how crazy body image really is, and how much the “ideal body” types have changed throughout history, and the thing is it will continue to change, yet everyone has a completely different body shape, so why should fashion and trends dictate how we feel about ourselves?
By loving our bodies, we are prepared to nourish them, to take care of them, to keep them active and moving, to stay healthy, and to allow ourselves to be confident in our own skin. The bare truth is that we are all stuck in our bodies, right now there is no possible way to change that. And I believe our lives and bodies are a gift from the universe, I mean we are a miracle! The fact we are alive is simply incredible, so why are we concerned with how we “look” to others. As long as we are happy, healthy and able to live full and successful lives, doing everything we want to do, then why should we be unhappy?
The reason is, its very profitable to have huge numbers of unhappy people, because you can’t sell being happy in your own skin, but you can sell all sorts of ways to become happy in your own skin. Think about all the gossip and celebrity magazines, the headlines stating which celeb is thin, which are fat, and how they did it. There are thousands of diets, pills, books, websites, detoxes, products and exercise regimes that will “help you lose weight”, but the real question is, why are we so unhappy in our miraculous bodies that we decided to put it through the stressful task of losing weight? Who decided that our body wasn’t ok exactly how it is? Who told you that you are too fat? Too thin? Too muscular? Too hairy? Too tall? And why the fuck is it anyone else’s concern but your own.
The two pics below outline how crazy standards of beauty are getting, these are three separate campaigns, but one of them is so far away from representing the variety of female body shapes.
The only way we can get to the other side, and be completely and utterly happy with our body, is to take control of our thoughts, and take ownership of what we have been given. This is MY BODY, and I am IN LOVE with it! When we take control of our body, we take control of our health, happiness and get rid of any negativity that others may place in us. But that also means we are accountable for our bodies, that means looking after it! It is your own responsibility to take care of your body, you are in charge of keeping it healthy, keeping it moving, and keeping it able to live a full life. Stop listening to what others tell you to do with your body, stop taking advice from gossip magazines, stop listening to your peers, your parents, and to your relatives. They do not own your body. No-one owns your body except for you. And now is the time to take control and start loving yourself, because its only when you decide to take responsibility that you can change how your body looks.
This is MY BODY, and I am IN LOVE with it!
If you need to lose weight, do it to become healthier, happier and fitter for yourself. Do it not because you want to have a “bikini body” but do it so you can swim further, so you can run faster, so you can get up every morning and greet your body with a happy heart. Losing weight should never be because someone told you that you are “fat”, what is fat anyway? Its stored energy to use later, so start using it. Once you love your body, and look after it by nourishing it with nutrient dense, fresh and colourful foods, as well as moving it everyday and keeping it healthy, you will find yourself in a body that is meant to be as it naturally is. Your body will take the shape of what it always was intended to be, you just have to love and care for it, and it will do the rest!
So right now, make a pact with yourself, to love are care for your body, and to stop listening to outside opinions about what you are “supposed” to look like. Its your body. Time to start taking control of your body, your health and your life!
I’m looking for 10 brave individuals who would like to share their body love/hate story with me on the upcoming segments of body love, you will have to brave it and share a pic of yourself (with clothes or without) and how you have/are planning to love your body more. You will be helping such a huge number of people feel more confident and loving their bodies. If you are interested send me an email at [email protected] nutrillynutrition.com
*Edit: Iv’e changed the original header image, because the image was when I was pretty low, and I wanted to portray a more happy version of my body love!